When i was young,at the age of primary school,i was a quiet obedient little girl,listened to my parents' orders,behaved well in front of those adults,didn't create much noise,always kept neat and smiling,helped other classmates when they needed help,got high score in school.Even though i didn't talk much with my classmates,my teachers,my neighbours,my relatives,my parents' friends,most of them liked me and always spoke highly of me.
When i was a teenager,at the age of junior to high school,i wasn't as quiet as child anymore.
I began to initiate some small talks with those adults,chat with my parents,talk something about my school life,about their work,tried to share my parents' burden and pressure spiritually.
I began to cultivate the friendship,go out with my friends,share my deep feelings about family,about friendship,about love,about future with my friends,study with my friends,even skip classes with my friends......We laughed out loudly when we are happy,we cried out fully when we needed to spare ourselveswe.
I began to query teachers about academical questions,run for some positions in class,help the teachers deal with problems and routines in class.
However,i still kept smiling,being kind and helping each other whenever who needed help.
So most of my friends,my teachers,my neighbours,my relatives,my parents' friends still liked me and always spoke highly of me.
When i was in my home University,i changed again.I wasn't even quiet
I began to speak out my opinions to get other people's attention and recognition.
I began to learn to be independent at some necessary time
I began to understand some unsaid rules and meanings in certain situations
I began to care about my parents' health and work by calling back from time to time,make some decisions on my own.
However,i still kept smiling,being kind and helping each other whenever who needed help.
So most of my friends,my teachers,my neighbouts,my relatives,my parents' friends still liked me and always spoke highly of me.
Now, i am here in NUS,a totally new,competitive and cosmopolitan University.I know i need to change again in order to cultivate the new effective communication skills in English.
In all,i think the effective communication skills are different at different periods of your lifetime.You need to always update the new effective communication skills inorder to adapt to the new period of your lifetime,inorder to make your life more wonderful,more successful and more meaningful.
But there are some things that will be useful for communicating effectively forever,that is smile and being kind!No matter where are you from,no matter how old are you,no matter you are female or male,no matter any situation,they are the beginning of your effective communication! These principles i will bear in mind for all time.
I began to initiate some small talks with those adults,chat with my parents,talk something about my school life,about their work,tried to share my parents' burden and pressure spiritually.
I began to cultivate the friendship,go out with my friends,share my deep feelings about family,about friendship,about love,about future with my friends,study with my friends,even skip classes with my friends......We laughed out loudly when we are happy,we cried out fully when we needed to spare ourselveswe.
I began to query teachers about academical questions,run for some positions in class,help the teachers deal with problems and routines in class.
However,i still kept smiling,being kind and helping each other whenever who needed help.
So most of my friends,my teachers,my neighbours,my relatives,my parents' friends still liked me and always spoke highly of me.
When i was in my home University,i changed again.I wasn't even quiet
I began to speak out my opinions to get other people's attention and recognition.
I began to learn to be independent at some necessary time
I began to understand some unsaid rules and meanings in certain situations
I began to care about my parents' health and work by calling back from time to time,make some decisions on my own.
However,i still kept smiling,being kind and helping each other whenever who needed help.
So most of my friends,my teachers,my neighbouts,my relatives,my parents' friends still liked me and always spoke highly of me.
Now, i am here in NUS,a totally new,competitive and cosmopolitan University.I know i need to change again in order to cultivate the new effective communication skills in English.
In all,i think the effective communication skills are different at different periods of your lifetime.You need to always update the new effective communication skills inorder to adapt to the new period of your lifetime,inorder to make your life more wonderful,more successful and more meaningful.
But there are some things that will be useful for communicating effectively forever,that is smile and being kind!No matter where are you from,no matter how old are you,no matter you are female or male,no matter any situation,they are the beginning of your effective communication! These principles i will bear in mind for all time.
Thanks, Vikki, for posting. I'll add comments after the others have a chance.
ReplyDeleteHey Vikki!
ReplyDeleteI feel that there is a lack of elaboration on the importance of developing effective communication skills to you. You mentioned that effective communication will 'make your life more wonderful,more successful and more meaningful'. I guess you could elaborate on how it might happen? Probably it would be because effective communication leads to harmony among people and reduces conflicts?
I noticed a trend in your writing! You like to use repetition of phrases either at the beginning or the end of a paragraph. The previous post you went "it's the first time..." at the beginning of some paragraphs. This post you used "...my friends,my teachers,my neighbours,my relatives,my parents' friends still liked me and always spoke highly of me" at the end of some paragraphs.
Look forward to your next post(=
Sze Hui:
ReplyDeleteHi,thank you for your useful and earnest comment.I can see that you really read through my posts by your heart.
You really give me a wonderful help.I also notice that there is a problem existing in my post but i don't know what exactly the problem is,then you just highlight the problem specifically.Thank you so much.I will work on it in the following posts.
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ReplyDeleteDear Vikki,
ReplyDeleteThis is an interesting post. I like the way you discuss the different stages of your life, and you show how your behavior changed during each period. I also like the rhythm of your words, the cadence, which in a way is quite poetic.
There are a couple ways that you could improve this post though. Like Sze Hui, I feel that you need to make the connection between your behaviors at each time period and your skills development more explicit. Just one or two statements for each era would be useful. For instance, you could have written that "As a little child in primary school, my communication, verbal and nonverbal, was in direct response to the expectations of the people in my social environment." Then you could further elaborate on your skills development on the next time period.
Another way to improve this is to would be to work more closely with your blog buddy and edit your writing for better punctuation and capitalization, and for proper paragraphing. (Who is your buddy?)
Of course, your buddy is not responsible for you, but she should give you more critical advice.
I can also help you in this regard. I want to help you make your writing more standard, and more professional. I admire the fact that you can write as much as you can in quite fluent English. I also respect the depth of emotion that your writing display as you explain your behavior over time. But with better use of writing conventions, your ideas will shine through even more.
Let's work on this!
Brad:wow...thank you so much for giving me so many specific and useful tips on improving my writing.I will bear in mind those instructions^_^I am really really grateful for what you suggest.I will try my best to work on it!!!!
ReplyDeleteJaenatte is my blog buddy^_^
Dear buddy,
ReplyDeleteIt would be better if you could pay closer attention to your spacing. I also feel that you used too many repeating words like "began". Perhaps other words like "start, gradually develop the interest for" could also be used.
Also, it would be better to capitalize the "i" in the middle of your sentences.
I do hope it helps.
Cheers,
Jenn
nice article
ReplyDeletebut non-verbal communication is big part of our effective communication